Orsi Nossachev

Occupation: Solo Female Travel Influencer

Website: www.thisisorsi.com

Instagram: thisisorsi

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?
I started traveling alone when I was just a teenager. Both of my parents worked in the aviation industry, and I was so lucky to get free airline tickets while I was a minor. I used this perk every chance I got. My parents were so amazing to let me go and do my thing – for which I will be eternally thankful. Somehow they knew that I was destined to do this and not stopping me was the biggest gift they could have given me. Traveling solo as a woman is challenging. You will laugh, you will cry, you may even get lost from time to time. But through it all, you will find the real you – your strengths and weaknesses. That in itself is incredibly empowering, and will
motivate you to carry on to your next journey. Knowing how much it did for me, it became my passion to encourage other women to take a solo trip and really get to know themselves. I’ve had many side hustles over the years that paid the bills while I went out and spent everything that’s left on traveling. And from there, to get to a point where I’m getting paid to travel is an incredible achievement and I’m just getting started.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?
My mom. You’ll never meet a more selfless, kind, caring, and 100% REAL woman. While we don’t agree on everything in life, I know I have a lot to learn from her. She simply makes me want to be a better person. I have so much respect for how she handles herself in every situation. I never received anything else but support, wisdom, warmth, and so much love from her and I know she always wants the best for me. Even though I moved to Los Angeles 10 years ago, and we live on other parts of the world, we still talk for hours on the phone every single day and I couldn’t feel closer to her.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?
As women, we should celebrate every little milestone and not hold back the celebration until we reached our dreams. What if our dreams change somewhere along the way? We deserve to be celebrated for every accomplishment and that should fuel us to move forward and reach another goal of ours. Just think back where were you at this time last year. On the surface it may not seem like much of a change but if you think about it, you’ve come a long way. Just imagine how far you’ll be in another year. The #whyitribe community helps us realize that we don’t have to hide anything. We can share our wins and fails and find nothing but support and compassion in return.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?
I try to do that on a regular base by journaling. Every day I write down one thing that I’m proud about myself. It could be anything I’ve accomplished that day or how I look/feel. The sad truth is that without ‘being forced’ to say or write something nice about myself, I don’t think it would ever occur me to do it, but it’s actually surprisingly easy to think of something nice to write each day. That alone makes me feel really empowered. Being a travel blogger in the middle of a lock down is not easy but it forced me spend some time working on myself and in hindsight it was much needed. I created a Mindfulness Planner that’s accessible to everyone and it will help create habits that are good for your mind-body-soul connection. It has changed my life in the best way possible.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?
For so long we were trained that our voices are not worth hearing. So much more is expected from women than from men, and we never get enough credit for our accomplishments. Of course that left some scars on our hearts, but we’ve all been feeling this uproar and we are finally realizing that we are so incredibly strong, nothing can stop us, and we kick ass every single day at whatever we do! If that’s not worth celebrating, I don’t know what is.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?
This is something I’m still learning and I’m lucky enough to have strong female friends who will call me out on this. Every time we hang out, we tell each other a compliment and instead of discrediting it, we just have to say ‘thank you’. I love this tradition (or training if you like) so much that I applied this to my relationships with others as well and really hope this will keep going beyond my circles. Besides that, just receiving DMs and hearing that I inspire others to get out of their comfort zone and go travel alone is such a great feeling and makes me really proud of myself.

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?
A few years ago I went to my first women’s circle, which was a huge leap of faith for me. I’m an introvert and I didn’t know anyone in that circle. I just had a strong calling that I need to go and it turned out to be one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Meeting these women completely changed my views on the world. Everyone was at a different place in their lives, had different occupations, passions, and beliefs, but somehow it all made sense. Having this support system made such a difference in my life. Going to those meetings really taught me that I am enough and perfection is overrated.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?
The only way to take our power back is by uniting and breaking down those walls together. Society tells us that we have to be ashamed of our bodies, our periods, our sexuality, and that’s so wrong. We should be nothing but proud of those things because being a woman is a privilege! We create life for God’s sake, how can we ever be called weak?! We have to keep fighting for equality now, so that our daughters and granddaughters won’t have to. And I really think we are on a great path right now.

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY?
Definitely not told enough. I believe that kids these days are bullied in school and the root of the problem starts there. Even if you are raised in a loving and supportive family, young girls need guidance in school as well since that’s where they spend most of their days and that’s where most of their influences come from. I firmly believe that every school should have anti-bullying policy and classes that teach all students (not just girls) about mental health and equality. I think if boys were educated about that too, they would be treating girls differently in school, and later on in their adult lives too.

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?
I would tell my younger self that even though I don’t feel like it, I am enough and my actions matter more than I would ever imagine as they all have a ripple effect. And that it is ok to be selfish with time in order to work on becoming a better person.

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT?
I can only speak for myself but for me, yes, it was taught. I grew up in Eastern Europe doing competitive gymnastics and all I’ve ever known as a kid was that women have to tear each other down. That was expected of us by our teachers and trainers who never really cared about us, only about results. I am so glad that I got out of that world and realized that women are absolutely amazing, and they should not be my enemies but rather my inspiration. Since then and I strive to empower women with every action I take, and compliment them to put a smile on their face.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?
There is power in numbers and as we proved it in the past years, a trending hashtag on social media can change the world. I think it was during the #metoo movement when we first realized how powerful it really is, and now look at us a few years later.. Hashtag activism and uniting through it all helped us put deserving people behind bars, transform laws, educate people, and so much more. While social media can definitely be deceiving, we also have to be grateful that there is an outlet for all of this.

HOW ARE YOU TRYING TO KEEP YOUR SELF-ESTEEM UP IN THE MIDST OF THIS GLOBAL PANDEMIC AND WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHERS READING THIS?
The past few months have definitely not been easy, and we all feel this. It tested our mental health in more ways than we thought possible. Many of us haven’t left their houses for 4+ months now, gotten used to the PJ life, and being all natural looking since you cannot get your nails/lashes/hair done, can’t go to the gym to keep yourself in amazing shape or can’t get a tan. I know it was a huge adjustment for everyone, including me, and I would be lying if I said that it didn’t take a toll on my self-esteem. But over time it also made me more accepting of myself and realize that I don’t need all that stuff to look pretty. It all comes from within and if you are not happy on the inside, it shows on the outside, no matter how much makeup you put on. This pandemic also forced me to talk to people more on FaceTime, which strengthened a lot of my existing friendships and created new ones as well. As horrible this pandemic is – and I am so incredibly sorry for everyone who have lost loved ones to Covid – but it also gave us the gift of time. The time to spend with people (even if just virtually), the time to work on our passion projects, the time to care for ourselves. I’m always
trying to find the silver lining in everything, and for me, this is it.