Sully Wittrock

Occupation: Personal Style Coach

Website: www.sullywittrock.mykajabi.com/

Instagram: heartandsolestyle

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

The moment I realized I could help women without limitation from my employer on their personal style was the moment I knew I had to leave retail and offer personal style coaching for women.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

My amazing mother. She has been the guiding example for me my whole life, showing me that anything is possible, and how valuable independence and self-sufficiency is. I truly don’t know if I would’ve quit retail and pursued my dream if it hadn’t been for my mom always walking the walking and proving to me that women can be successful entrepreneurs.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

It allows us to give and receive love more freely, from a place of presence and gratitude, instead of lack or indifference.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I have been feeling stress around meeting new people lately, so I have been calmly affirming to myself that I love meeting new people, and people love meeting me. It feels loving and helps me show up for the new people I meet in my life as if they are already friends.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I love this question. There are truly so many reasons for this.

I’ve noticed many women point out to me that they don’t want to be the center of attention or pull focus away from anyone or anything else, as if personal praise and celebration of oneself is stealing praise and celebration from others. In thinking this way, they tend to take actions that hide themselves, and the hiding is what is stealing from others. If you’re hidden no one can hear your story or see your transformation. Women should praise and celebrate themselves; you never know who is watching and listening that needs your help!

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

This took a long time for me and was incredibly difficult at first. I started saying only ‘thank you’ to people, and absolutely nothing else. The first step to not discrediting compliments for me was truly accepting them, which meant only saying thank you and letting what they said sink in. This was incredibly helpful and now when I receive compliments, I truly accept them and love to give them back.

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?

Again, my mother. She has always been an incredibly role model and always told me I was capable of doing hard things, and not to give up.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

I’ve never met a woman that has never been told she’s not good enough. It’s ingrained in the smallest parts of our everyday society that women aren’t enough. One of the best things we can do to take back our power is to reflect on our own thoughts about ourselves and question why we do or don’t feel like we are enough. It’s important to do the inner work before diving deep into trying to solve a societal problem. Our actions count too. We have the ability to use our voices, vote, support women owned business, volunteer, and donate, and every little thing helps far more than we tend to believe it does sometimes.

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY?

The more we see all women using their diverse voices and showing up with praise for their full true selves in the online space, the more we will start to see a shift in the messages that are placed on young girls. I don’t think this is something that will transform overnight, but it has started!

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

Love is not limited; it is always within you and infinitely available. You can love yourself at the best of times but also in the worst of times. Opening yourself up to receiving love will never hurt you. Love can never be taken from you, only given.

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT?

I think this comes from the desire to prove we are equal to men, but women are already equal, it requires no proof. Unfortunately, we are taught and shown every day that more men make decisions and hold influence in the world than women. Instead of competing with men we are competing with each other to get to the one coveted position that is available for women at the top. We’ve been offered a seat at the table, but only one, and we don’t want to lose it. I think it will become more and more valuable to teach young girls/women the importance of lifting each other up and creating more and more seats for all kinds of women to sit in and share their voice.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

THE TRIBE movement provides community, something all women need! It’s a leading example of what is possible for women when we work together.

HOW ARE YOU TRYING TO KEEP YOUR SELF-ESTEEM UP IN THE MIDST OF THIS GLOBAL PANDEMIC AND WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHERS READING THIS?

Everyone’s situation is different, but I have found that taking time to get all of my thoughts out of my head and onto a piece of paper helps me look at my negative self-talk more objectively and with more compassion for myself. It’s an incredible stress relief, and I always get up out of my chair feeling better than I did before I sat down and started writing.