Natasha Wong Davis

Occupation: Product & Retail Consultant and Head of Product for Before Noon, a wellness brand that inspires a practice of self-care through tools and alternative healing

Website: www.beforenoon.co

Instagram: natasha.k.wong

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

I learned the Hedgehog Concept from the book “Good to Great” by Jim Collins in my mid-20’s and reflected on my answers to the questions “What am I passionate about?”, “What am I best in the world at?” and “What drives my economic engine?”. The first question solidified my purpose. The second question reminded me that when I am showing up as my authentic self, I am in my power. The third question acknowledged that there must be a financial component that intersects with my purpose and my authenticity. With every step I take in my career, I focus on the intersection of these 3 circles; what I call “My North Star.” (see diagram below).

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

At the beginning of this year, I got curious about what my mom was navigating through while I was in her womb. I found the courage to ask her during my last visit in SF, and when I inquired, she shrugged and nonchalantly answered, “everything was fine.” I took her answer for face value and continued with what I was doing. A few minutes passed and my inner voice wanted to dig deeper so I began asking questions about where she was living, what she was doing for work, how she was feeling about having a girl, etc. What she shared verbally and the emotions she expressed not only gave me insight into who I am, I recognized that there was more than what I had always admired and respected; her strength and perseverance, her selfless love and sacrifice. What I saw and felt for the first time was her loss but excitement to dream through me, the nonstop demands and cry for acknowledgement, and the invisible unnoticed work she was doing while trying to remember who she was, what made her happy and why she was worthy.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

As someone who struggles with self-judgement and worthiness, #WHYITRIBE is a gentle reminder that my work is to release old beliefs and negative thoughts that do not serve me and to choose to practice being in the present moment and celebrate small and big wins. It’s the encouragement we need to believe that we don’t need to know what to do next or how to be tomorrow, but to be proud of the work we’ve done to get us to where we are today.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I participated in a breathwork session recently and what came up for me was this old programming of thinking I’m broken or incomplete. Memories of not belonging, conditional love, and relationships that lacked trust and authenticity fed into this belief that I was flawed. Through breath, I was able to release, rewire, and bring in the new belief that “I am whole.” Being “whole” makes me feel powerful, alive and worthy.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

“Accept both compliments and criticism. It takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.” I read this quote a few years ago and it reframed how I wanted to show up when approached with both compliments and criticism. Having high personal expectations was generationally passed down to me so it’s been a big part of my journey to turn down my inner critic. This work and growth has given me access to self-love and self-acceptance. And by loving myself, I’m able to accept compliments with grace, love and gratitude.

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

You are born perfect, unconditionally loved and allowed to process, feel, and express every emotion. There’s nothing you need to do or accomplish to love yourself. Find little ways to love yourself more every day. Trust your heart, your intuition, and your inner knowing.

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT?

I think Brené Brown answered this for us with her definition of shame; the “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are not worthy of love and belonging.” I think shame prompts fear and when there is fear of not being enough, a lack of self-love and a closed heart, women project their fear in the form of competition instead of looking inwards. Though we are born whole, imperfectly perfect and worthy of love and connection, I know from my own experience that shame is learned through life experiences. I believe that by shifting our attention from other women to ourselves, we can find empathy and remove shame from our lives which will bring women together to support one another versus compete.

How are you ensuring your peace of mind and sanity during COVID-19?

During COVID-19 or any time I am feeling unclear, doubt or anxiety, I turn to my daily self-care routine (see below) by using our Before Noon toolboxes to prime myself for maximum productivity each day. I also set a monthly intention and break that down to weekly and daily goals to keep me motivated and engaged, I make time to express creativity (for me, it’s in the kitchen!) and I prioritize feeling connected to my husband.

1. Morning: Read a daily meditation, journal, practice gratitude (3 things I’m grateful for and 3 things that would make today great), lemon water & coffee, sweat once a day
2. Night: Chinese herbs & h2o, practice gratitude (3 amazing things that happened today), meditate, and light incense to cleanse and set the tone for a new day