Michele Marshall-Hicks

Occupation: Wardrobe Stylist for Cabi

Website: www.michelehicks.cabionline.com

Instagram: 2fashionpassion

Michele Marshall-Hicks

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

Women and their life stories. There’s a bond that happens one on one when you’re helping her choose an outfit, or going through her closet. Listening to her story and getting to know who she is and then that moment she looks beyond the mirror and embraces and knows her beauty, strength and confidence from the inside out. 

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

My mother. She always told me and my 4 younger sisters how beautifully made we are. She was/has/is our champion cheerleader. She encouraged us growing up to not count on others but count on ourselves first. My mom was born in 1936. Her father worked on the railroad and died when she was 9 yrs old. Her mother was a seamstress and worked in the sweatshops during the depression and WWII. Too long to go into, so I’ll just say it’s a wonder and a miracle my mom is a light that shines bright not just for her daughters and her granddaughters but for all women.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

We are all beautifully made. We have the unique gift to be intuitive. Our ability to nurture, teach, empower and love is our strength. There’s something special about #whyitribe because it’s about celebrating each other and who we are and how we got to where we are today without judging, comparing or taking someone down.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

Today in a conversation with my teenage daughter. I shared with her I was asked to do an interview with THE TRIBE – the look of love in her eyes and joy in her smile and her kind words filled me up. I am enough, I am beautiful, I am strong.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

We’ve been told it’s conceit to praise ourselves. To add to that, we’ve blamed men for this (and YES, they are a huge part of why) BUT I’m always blown away when it’s women who do it to each other. We discredit, we accuse, we judge, we tear down instead of encouraging, celebrating and praising each other. I feel we then become fearful to share and celebrate who we are so we withdraw and become silent.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

One, my daughter. When I have those moments and some days it feels like a lot – I see myself as my daughter and what would my mom say to me. Two, husband – he doesn’t let me get away with being negative towards myself. Three, my tribe – these women respond back with love and uplifting words of support.

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?

Dawn Brackett. She still does.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Social media has in many ways reinforced this behavior. Social media many times over has been used as a weapon to seek out and destroy. 

Social media is used for good as well. I mean look at The Tribe, it is why I follow you. I believe with voices like yourselves, along with so many others we will find our voice, our confidence and take the power back – never stop.

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY?

Yes and No. If you were to ask my daughter, she would say ‘Yes’. She is surrounded by strong women. She doesn’t tolerate talk or actions that are less than. However, globally that’s not happening. I believe as women, young and old – we reinforce #weareenough with love, compassion, empowerment, strength with our actions and/or words not only with each other but with each encounter. The grocery clerk, your neighbor, the server…what a different world it could be if we just said a kind and encouraging word starting with ourselves and then the world around us.

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

You are beautifully made, you are intelligent, you are a gift, you are enough.

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT? 

Lack of self-esteem, jealousy, comparing the “haves” and “have nots”.

Is it taught? Hmm, Yes! One thousand percent! Since the beginning of time!

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

THE TRIBE movement is important because: it encourages you are enough, encourages unity, encourages belief in ourselves, encourages we are all uniquely special, whole, wonderfully made, we are one.

HOW ARE YOU ENSURING YOUR PEACE OF MIND AND SANITY DURING COVID-19?

My peace of mind and sanity during COVID-19 comes from:

First – my faith in God

Second – my family

Third – keeping news to once a day

Fourth – music music music

Fifth – zooming with my family in California, Nevada and Tennessee. Which is fun because we live in Hawaii and 2 different time zones.

Sixth – unpacking boxes I haven’t unpacked since we moved to Hawaii 6 years ago.

Seventh – we started a vegetable and flower garden.

AND

Eighth – honoring social distancing

I hope and pray you are able to have peace of mind and sanity during this time as well. This time shall pass and we will look back and see how strong we are. Hopefully a new respect of honoring each other and caring for those who can’t. Maybe the human race will be more likeable again.