Monica Samling

Occupation: Working Mum of 2/Instagram Blogger

Website: www.crownyourstyle.com

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Monica Samling

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

I try to find inspiration in ALL women in every day life and surround myself with females, who inspire me to better myself and feel good about myself, but if I was to name one it would have be Tina Turner, for her tenacity, incredible power and strength. She is an amazing example of how you can turn your life around and become a strong, independent woman who knows her self-worth.  

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

I think it is of paramount importance to encourage self-love and acceptance amongst women through initiatives such #WHYITRIBE because of the immense pressure to look, behave and be a certain way in today’s society. Often, women no longer feel worthy of celebrating who they already are unless we change or correct our looks to a certain standard, which I find really scary and dangerous. This was the main idea behind creating #MUMAFIERCE 2 years ago. I wanted to make women feel worthy and proud of themselves, just the way they are already.  

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I try and give myself credit every day. I still fall into the trap of expecting so much of myself, and not being incredible at everything that I do, but you simply can’t! When my anxiety takes over or I feel things are just getting on top of me, I stop, take a step back and count my blessings. And there are so many to be grateful for. Feeling good about yourself does not always mean looking great. It comes from within. 

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I think it simply is not in our nature, to feel proud of our looks or feeling good about ourselves, because it may come across as arrogant. 

How often to you hear :

“You look amazing today hun” 

“Thank you, I know I feel amazing!” 

Instead, it’s “I look so fat and ugly today”

There is nothing wrong with knowing and celebrating your worthy and it does not mean you are high headed or self-centred! 

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

I don’t discredit them. I acknowledge them and say “Thank You” compliment a nice thing to hear, so why dismiss it? I have a mirror at home, and I look at it before I leave the house, so I know how I feel about the way I look on that particular day. However, as much as it is nice to hear a compliment, I do not rely on them nor need acceptance from others to make me feel good about myself, but it is a skill I learned over the years. I appreciate many women may not have that ability, but it can be acquired through acknowledging your self-worth. 

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?

I am my own worst critic. So when I reached a stage in my life when self-loathing and abuse just got too exhausting, I decided to turn on the more kind and inspirational side of me. This side makes me say it loud and proud that I am in fact enough. 

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY?

I have two boys so my challenges are different to those of raising a daughter, but I would certainly encourage the self-care and acceptance attitude from a very young age. I think the impact of social media and some celebrities creating damaging and unrealistic images have certainly contributed to the low esteem amongst many young girls, which often have disastrous consequences. 

Of course, it is not all bad and avoiding social platforms is practically impossible in this day and age, but I would concentrate on following more realistic and inspirational behaviours as supposed to the distorted ones. 

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

As cliché as it will sound, LOVE YOURSELF and DO NOT COMPAPRE your life and the way you look to others! Embrace what you have and be proud of it. It is ok to better yourself or work on your appearance but only if you have the need for it and not to please others. Don’t be afraid to express yourself and be fearless. That’s half the success! 

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT?

Speaking from my personal experience, I think it mainly stems from insecurities and self-inflicted pressure to succeed at everything, including being a perfect mother and have a successful career at the same time. Oh and look amazing at all times! Often, instead of supporting and helping each other, we compete against one another. Luckily, the rise of support groups for women has been amazing to see over the last decade, to help change that approach, which is really encouraging and inspirational to see. 

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

To give women encouragement and the ability to celebrate and embrace being a woman. It is through initiatives like “The Tribe”, that we can change the perception of our self being worthless and insignificant. It is all about women supporting women and reaching out to each other when in need. Not competing against one another or let jealousy create a barrier to succeed collectively or individually.  Glow by raising others!