Rosineia Phinney

Occupation: Stay at home mom / Bachelor's Degree in Social Work

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Rosineia Phinney

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

I think you could do both, it is possible to find passion even when you are working with something that is not your ideal job. I mean I have Bachelor’s degree in Social Work in Brazil, but since I move to the United States I worked at Target as a sales associate and I loved what I was working with and I did everything with excellence. I also worked as a nanny.  My dream is becoming a Nurse actually and I hope I can live this dream not far long from now. However I would do any kind of job that pays bills, and I would find happiness and gratitude on that.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

My mom Shirlei. She is the sweetest and kindest person I know. When she born she was given to another family,  she faced domestic violence for years, my dad tried to kill her and she endures all of this to raise 4 kids. Despite all her suffering she is resilient and has a big forgiving heart. I admire her for her strength and faith, she always is smiling and willing to help others, she is my inspiration.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

Always. Our lives are gifts, no matter what we went or go through the fact that we are alive and breathing is so amazing and it needs to be celebrated. I personally think that smiling is one of the better ways to celebrate ourselves. Not smiling only when things are going well. I mean smiling daily just for the fact you woke up every morning alive.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

When someone from my husband’s family trashed my name and I felt sad because I haven’t done anything wrong to that person. I looked in the mirror and I said to myself  I don’t have to prove myself to anybody, I am enough, I am amazing and that’s what matters and I smiled. By doing that I felt whole again, I decide not to let others break me down anymore.  I promised to do my best and keep smiling. 

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I think it is because unfortunately society still paints women like we need to be strong, endure things, bear children, take care of them and the house chores…that we should forget ourselves and that we were made for this purpose only…but at the same time we are not strong enough to have the same high paying jobs as men do. When actually we should be seen as warriors because some women have double, triple…infinite roles after getting off work…as mom wife, teacher, nurse…and so forth. We are superheroes. 

I was given a discredit compliment last week. My husband raised his voice and said: “I am only one working in this house,  I am the one who pays bills”. My answer was honey let me correct you, you are not the only one working in this house, we work. I give support to you by staying with the kids at home, taking good care of them and cooking the healthy fresh meal you enjoy and keep you alive and functioning, I do laundry so you have clean clothes you wear every day…so, therefore, we do work together to pay bills. After this, he considered his mistake and apologized to me.

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?

My mom. I remember when I was in second grade and I had difficulties with Math…I got frustrated and she would always come to me and say “It is ok to get frustrated,  but when it is done you have got to try this and that and find a way to learn because education is essential in life.” Also, she would say “remember Rosi you are enough, do your very best and if you fail, you are still enough and keep trying, keep marching forward and improving yourself”.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

I think by reducing or restricting women’s role in society as just a vessel that gives birth and take care of kids. I think we take that back starting how we raise our kids, teaching them the importance and value of our souls as a human being.

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY? 

I was told I am enough. but I know a lot of women that weren’t taught that way. We can teach our girls that an intelligent mindset starts by knowing themselves well and remind them that they are beautiful,  they are amazing no matter the colour of hair, eyes, skin and shape of their bodies.

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

I would congratulate myself for listening to my mom’s advice that I am important that I am beautiful and I would say thank you for doing your best. 

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT? 

Societies standard of beauty changes us. Social media influencers make it sound as if we need to wake up with the perfect skin glow, put makeup on, a nice outfit and conquer the world. It tell us that hitting the gym and fitness are a trend when it should be a choice of life to keep yourself healthy. Not everyone can afford a nice pair of tennis shoes and gym membership, etc.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

It gives us a chance to voice an opinion and to encourage women to share positive things about themselves.