Lily Liebel

Occupation: Creative Director of Entourage Collection

Website: www.entourage-collection.com

Instagram: TheRealLilster

Lily Liebel

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

I founded Entourage Collection with my husband Simon 10 years ago, and we have been incredibly lucky and blessed to work with amazing people on amazing projects, so that it really never felt like “work” just to pay the bills. My passsion has always been projects (even in school, I was not great at exams at all, but I loved doing projects!) and so the fact that I get to work on fantastic and creative projects every day is just so amazing. I think if you identify what you are good at and what drives you, no matter what it is, you will feel fullfilled and happy. The old adage of if you do what you love it will never feel like work is true. Not that it isn’t extremely tough at times, and of course starting and running your own company comes with the highest of highs and lowest of lows and TONS of grunt work (hello website crashes!) but I also strongly believe in learning by doing and so every experience, positive and negative, has taught me a ton, and been invaluable in helping my own clients with their businesses and knowing what to do and what not to do with future projects.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

My mother, who is one of the most inspirational and philanthropic women I know. She is so kind, smart and funny, and always helping others and giving back, never asking for recognition and never making it about her. She has also always been my biggest cheerleader, which is why I always thought/still think anything is possible. 

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

All too often we idolise others and put people up on a pedastal and think everything about them is perfect, and that we don’t match up; I think the rise of social media has also not helped with this, though that being said I also think there is something to be said about showing the happy/positive side of your life as inspiration and being proud of what you have accomplished. But I think it’s really important to be proud of yourself and be happy with how you are now, and celebrate the things you are good about and like about yourself, and know that you are enough just as you are. Try your best, be kind, give back and keep the right priorities in mind and we can all be much more confident and content in who we are.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

If I’ve achieved something great for a client of mine I always feel great and proud because I believe so strongly in what I do and what they are doing and I take it very much to heart. I also feel pretty good if I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and don’t look a zillion years old considering I have two young children! (But I also believe very strongly in hydrating masks and eating avocado!)

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I think women tend to always give their all to others and make very little time or leave very little space to give back to themselves. Women really are Superwomen, and we always put others first. I think there is also a negative energy out there that if we praise ourselves we are being selfish or full of ourselves, and I think that’s harmful; men certainly don’t operate that way! They give themselves a medal if they take the garbage out! (Not to bash men, I think it’s equally important to celebrate and champion men too!) But I do think women could take a page out of their books and celebrate themselves and their accomplishments more and not feel embarrassed or ashamed when they do.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

Women do this all the time and it drives me crazy! I actually do try to take the compliemnts given and appreciate them, and I really encourage other women to do this! If someone compliemnts something you are wearing, instead of saying “Oh this old thing? It’s a million years old/on sale/whatever”, say “Thank You!” If someone says “Oh your hair looks so nice today!” say “Thank you so much!” and compliment them back on something!

WHO WAS THE FIRST FEMALE TO TEACH YOU OR INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL THAT #YOUAREENOUGH?

My mother, who actually has always said that about me and other women, that we are enough, and to be proud of ourselves and confident and to always strive to be our best and do our best but to always know that we are enough as we are.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Whilst I think times are changing, there are still preconcieved notions about expectations of women, stigmas about a women’s place. Women are still paid less and far less represented in key areas and industries around the world. Women can take this power back by believeing in it ourselves, knowing that we are enough, and by passing this message on to other women and actually walking the walk not just talking the talk. Spaces like THE TRIBE are so important for this as well, places where women can come together as a community to encourage each other and see they are not alone! Education for women is key, for young girls in developing countries as well as higher/graduate education for women, and for greater work opportunities and promotions for women and allowing for more flexible/realistic working schedules for women.

ARE WE TOLD ENOUGH AS YOUNG GIRLS THAT #WEAREENOUGH? IF NOT, HOW CAN WE CHANGE THIS MESSAGING FOR YOUNG GIRLS TODAY? 

Girls definitely need a voice of encouragement and support from somewhere, they need a cheerleader. For me this was my mother, but I think there is such a strong and powerful female movement and female role models now in so many different areas of life, that hopefully that message is getting out there. But of course your immediate circle of friends and your mother are huge influences on a young girl’s life, and as a global community it’s important to reinfornce this message and support each other. 

WHAT WOULD YOU GO BACK AND TELL YOUR YOUNGER SELF, TO ENCOURAGE SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE?

I was very lucky growing up because I did have a mother who praised me and encouraged me to be my best, and I actually always felt pretty confident. I didn’t worry too much about what others thought, and I tried to pass this energy on to my girlfriends around me, and I still do. My mother always said not to worry about being cool in middle school (and now she tells me to remind my children not worry about being “cool” in middle school!) and that really stuck with me and she was right. 

WHERE DO YOU THINK THE NEED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN COMES FROM? IS IT TAUGHT? 

Sandra Oh said recently about Beyonce that  “Beyonce shows me what you can create when you give your all and you make space for others to do the same” and I loved this; it’s about women giving their all and encouraging and supporting other women. I consider myself a girl’s girl, and I like to surround myself with other girl’s girls, who genuinely love and support each other. In my work and in my personal life I always try to help other women, whether it’s by introducing them to someone great for their business, or by being there for them after a break up. I have been very lucky though to have some amazing female influences in my life who operate this way, and I try to model my behaviour after them. I don’t like “mean girls” cliques and I do see them occashionally and try to avoid them; I don’t have time for that negative energy and I don’t like it.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

It is important for women to have a sense of community, and a space (virtual or real) where they can go and be with like minded women and feel supported and encouraged and strengthened. THE TRIBE both online and in the message you are sending out is a positive and encouraging influence on women and so vitally important. It is important to have a space where women can see each other and praise each other, and not feel like they have to compete or best each other. We are so much stronger together, see other women as inspiration and motivation and join together as a tribe.