Antonette Duff

Occupation: Co-founder Rosie & Cooey

Website: www.rosieandcooey.co.uk

Instagram: rosieandcooey

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

Since I was young, I have always dreamed of starting my own business. I have always known that I will never thrive working for someone else. At a very young age, I knew then that I wanted to start something and that had to be something good.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

My grandmother, Rosita. In all honesty, when I first read this question, my first thoughts were perhaps I ought to come up with somebody famous! However, for me, this has got to be about the most wonderful woman in my life! I never felt any maternal love from my own mother because she truly isn’t a very nice person and she used to hit me as a child and emotionally put me down (my girls and I do not have a relationship with her by the way!). However, what I lacked in maternal love from my own mother, I gained from my grandmother. My childhood may have been pretty rubbish because of my mother but I came out of it unscathed, as I was still lucky enough to have my grandmother who showed me what unconditional love meant.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

Life is difficult and full of challenges and at times very difficult to navigate. It doesn’t help that there are those on social media who focus on showing ‘the good life’. Not to mention, somebody will always have an opinion on something and there are those who thrive on comparing themselves to other people. I think that it is important that we just celebrate the good times and learn and grow from mistakes but make sure we don’t allow them to drag us down. We should be happy with who we are and be there to encourage and support others.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I was never really that sort of person who would ever say something good about myself. I’m not sure if it is because I’m just not
innately like that or because I was put down a lot as child. One thing that I do a lot of, is that I do often say to my husband what wonderful and amazing children we’ve got. When it comes to my little girls, I always say to myself, “Yes, I’ve done well there”.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I think it’s one of those things that you could potentially just come across as being self-absorbed! Also, sometimes we feel haven’t actually done enough that is worthy of praise and we are in fact being over-critical of ourselves.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

I don’t like being the center of anything! So, I would just say thank you and move the conversation along. I would accept the compliment, but I wouldn’t try and milk it.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE
TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

I do believe that things have changed so much over the years, compared to how I remember women being perceived when I was a kid. Women have been breaking barriers for quite some time now. Still some way to go but we are certainly seeing a shift in which not just grown women, but young girls have a voice. This is not to say they’ve only just acquired that ‘voice’ but this time they are actually being heard. I am hopeful of that time when my girls are at my age and they will look back and their perception of women will be that of strong women.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

This provides a very important platform. We should all encourage and support one another. It’s one where we can come to and know that whatever we are, whoever we are, we are valued.