Rajni Tripathi

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

Waking up every morning dreading most of the day, while excited for pockets of time where I could coach or teach, was the first point of awareness that drove me to hunker down and ask myself the questions: Do I want to enjoy a few hours of my day…or my entire life? Do I want to build something for someone else, or do I want to create my own empire?

Listening and feeling the impact that I was having on people, and confronting that I am, in fact, good at what I truly enjoy and am passionate about, was when it became clear cut – My passion S.H.O.U.L.D be my work. I will never get this day back again and thus, I must be the master and creator of my life and experiences. Having over a decade of professional consulting experience helped me build the strong bones of my company and my passion for changing lives was born!

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

I have two and there’s no way to pick one!

Personally, one of my best friends Mona Cheema, who passed away in June 2011. She was a woman with an enormous heart, and a defiant nature to stand up against any atrocity towards those who could not defend themselves. Witty with an insatiable sense of curiosity, she was an epic personality in a small body. She was the first person to teach me how to love myself and how to stand up for what I believed in. She taught me that the world needs me and that I have a purpose. To this day, whenever I am at a deep crossroad, she comes in my dreams and guides me, whipping out her contagious laugh right before I wake up.

My other best friend, Purva, is a woman I admire and respect greatly because I felt through her, unconditional love; the kind that doesn’t need me to do anything or be anyone, other than who I truly am. She has taught me patience, the value of subtleness, to strengthen my argument instead of my voice, to communicate strong and to forgive. By being an amazing mother to my goddaughters, she’s also helped me heal through my own younger experiences, as I see her raising her daughters with her husband. By being a wife, daughter and best friend, she’s shown me the strength of relationships and how commitment is one of the most beautiful learning experiences in the world.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

As women, we are pulling back the veil on forgiving’s and tolerances that we inherited in our bones from generations before us. At the same time, we are taking the intrinsic courage in our DNA and are now roaring out to the world that indeed, We. Are. Here and we are perfect as we are.

#WHYITRIBE is a loud, pulsating collective, gathering every woman’s courage, wit, and compassion into an impenetrable mass of love, rolling through the world and creating dialogue that We. Are. Enough, 100%; that supporting one another lifts the collective feminine power and builds crucial dynamics, as we choose to disrupt what is no longer working, and stand strong in our personhood.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I looked in the mirror and saw my small lips and my thick legs. For a split second, I sighed and said, “Oh well”.

Then, I remembered these lips have spoken words of truth and demanded it even more. These lips declared love and anger. These lips kissed and created moments forever in my mind. These are the lips that have said ‘no’ and ‘yes’ to people and moments that have stirred my soul. They are perfect and I am forever grateful for their presence. My thick legs have carried me everywhere I’ve wanted to be and every place I’ve needed to be. They are magnificent and deserve my respect and care. I felt such an intense and visceral sense of appreciation that I started to cry at the marvel of what I have. I want every single woman in the world to feel this deep love and appreciation for herself.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

We are conditioned to think we are ‘less than’ and to make sure that you don’t say the wrong thing in front of the ‘wrong person’. We are taught that conformity is the way you are secure in your life and that, especially in Eastern cultures, what others think of you is more important that any aspiration or original thought you have in your head. As long as you fit whatever the subjective mould of the generation is, you’ll always be loved. You see, we are taught that love is conditional.

Because of this brain-washing that often times comes from other women – mothers, friends, aunts (those that haven’t experienced unconditional love themselves), it creates an inherent distrust of ourselves, so that when we praise or celebrate ourselves (or other women), somehow it feels like undeserved or irrelevant. It’s the story of spending half your life learning how you should be, and the other half, unlearning those very same things.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

I remember a friend who was always pushing against any compliment anyone gave her. It turned into tortuous conversations of trying to convince her that she is freaking amazing at this or that, and becoming personally exhausted by the back and forth verbiage.

When I reflected after a particularly draining 5 minutes of the same type of conversation with her, it occurred to me, “my god, does she not understand how weary it is for me to do this!” This was an indirect and external way of understanding how to accept compliments myself.

The internal and direct way I learned to accept compliments was when one of my coachee’s came to me and said, while looking deeply in my eyes, that she was forever transformed by our time together. I saw it in her eyes and felt her energy in my bones. I said, for the first time without any sense of shyness or smidgen of discomfort, “Thank You”.

Just as she is enough as she is, I am enough as I am. Just as she made an impact on me, I made an impact on her. It changed my world and became another catalyst of learning how to self-love…the true kind without conceit or arrogance, but rather, with wonder and humility.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Whether it’s an ad with a bronzed, robust breasts, yoga pant commercials with women bent into pretzels, or the epic articles on the “Top 10 Ways to Be An Awesome Mother A.N.D something like an alien”, indirect messages that we are unworthy or not enough are everywhere.

Directly, it’s in the verbiage that comes from media or many times unfortunately, from friends and family. The latter is dangerous.

Taking the power back starts and ends with one, H.U.G.E action – finding your tribe. It is all about diving into and creating deep, personal, vulnerable relationships with other women who are vibing to an elevated frequency with their words, actions, pursuits, self-love, compassion and unconditional love.

Coming back to our original state that we were born – as enough – takes finding a group of women who will always be there to tell you the truth – hard or soft, push you to pursue your passions and stand beside you when you are speaking and living your authentic – badass self. Fear does not have space to speak when women take the stage, hand in hand.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

The feminine power and spirt has always needed a community, because while alone we are strong, together, we are fierce as the goddess Kali burning down and breaking what no longer works. The collective gives the individual courage, and the individual gives the collective its powerful passion.

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