Desiree Ruiz

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

I’ve always been a people person and need constant interaction with people. I know that I’m aligned with my passion when I don’t look at my watch and “time stops”.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

There are so many women that I look up to but if I had to chose just one it would be Ellen Degeneres. I love how she faced adversity and how she spreads love, kindness and laughter in the world. Everything that she does makes my heart smile…and she makes me laugh too!!

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

Because it’s a chain reaction. The more we celebrate ourselves, the more we encourage other women to celebrate themselves. We’re all secretly waiting for someone to jump off the cliff with….

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF/HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

Just this morning I was telling my best friend how positive I was, especially in really bad situations. It made me feel proud!

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

Because we were raised to be polite, nurturing and loving to everyone else but ourselves. Strong and confident women were viewed as arrogant and narcissistic. My goal is to teach my daughter self-love as early as possible – I’m only learning it now for myself. Everyday I tell her how much I love her with all my heart and soul BUT there’s one person that I love more than her…and that’s myself. Because we always have to love ourselves first!

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

Receiving compliments and the feeling of being “seen” used to make me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. I think it’s because vocal praise and compliments were not a part of my upbringing. In the past, I would reply with an awkward comment and funny body language.

Receiving compliments no longer makes me uncomfortable mainly because I’ve learnt to love and appreciate myself over the years. I love receiving and giving compliments now, especially from other women. I think it’s a wondeful way for women to connect.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA THAT WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Social media and the internet are wonderful resources BUT horrible for ones ego. We are constantly comparing ourselves and striving for “perfection” or wanting more “stuff”.  I think it’s absolutely exhausting and leads to a long road of unhappiness and emptiness.

I meet many women at our Les Lilas events, where women are invited to share a part of their personal journey, and I’ve noticed that many are uncomfortable listening to women share…especially about ones struggles and vulnerabilities. On the flip side, there are many women that have grown after listening to these stories. Essentially, it all comes down to breaking past our comfort zones and being true to ourselves. Women need to learn how to connect with eachother based on life experiences versus material or physical attributes. The more women open up, the more women feel less alone and feel seen for who they really are.

COMPASSIONATE LISTENING + VULNERABILITIES + DEEP CONNECTIONS = POWER

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

Because women are more powerful together! I love absolutely everything about THE TRIBE movement!! This has been such an honor, thank you!

Occupation: Mother and Co-Founder of Les Lilas Society

Website: www.leslilas.ca

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