Mulan Itoje

WHYITRIBE (THE REASON YOU THINK IT’S IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE):

It’s important to celebrate who we already are because its an act of self love. The present moment should be celebrated and recognised otherwise you constantly find yourself looking forward to something that’s going to happen and ignoring what has already happened.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF / HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I’m trying to get into a habit of saying affirmational words to myself daily…I usually remember whilst brushing my teeth. Looking at my reflection and say I am great, I am worthy, I can achieve anything, I am strong, intelligent and able. It makes me feel like I’m trying for myself, over the years I got stuck in a pattern of trying harder for others and giving myself nothing. Selfishness can also be an act of self love. You have to find the balance in life.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

Women are constantly oppressed and suppressed in society. We are conditioned to be coy and humble, staying strong for your man, family but never for yourself. Celebrating ourselves upset insecure men, insecure people. However if you don’t look after yourself, you can’t really look after anyone else.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

I have sat down and discussed the best way to receive a compliment, either by giving it back or just a simple thank you. If someone calls me beautiful then I believe that person is also beautiful; for taking the time to sprinkle their happiness in my direction, it goes beyond their looks.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA WE ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Society conditions us to believe our main worth is child bearing and marriage. After that it’s our looks. We take our power back by showing we are more and all. We can have everything, and so can society, if genders are treated equally.

It’s such a juxtaposition to state companies lose money hiring women when clearly our presence means we are already doing more. The majority of women are burdened with monthly reminders that our bodies are vessels to procreation…that should be rewarded, not shunned. This is one of the many reasons why we as women should stand proud.

Our position in society has not been chosen by us, we have merely adapted, evolved to survive. That alone shows our strength and capability, now we must demand to be respected for it. Firstly by uniting as women and respecting ALL women. ‘Hoe’ or ‘Housewife’ we have to show each other love and respect the other ones choice. Women are allowed to choose and be who they want to be without being bullied by society and its calculated traditions.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

It’s always good to bring awareness to issues such as these, addressing how we view ourselves and others. Love is the only law applicable, once you have love, you can have anything.

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