Beth Gentle

WHYITRIBE (THE REASON YOU THINK IT’S IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE):

It’s important because I feel uncomfortable even answering these questions. I am already thinking, “Someone will read this and think that I am being cocky and arrogant,”…that mindset needs to stop. I am proud of who I am, and I shouldn’t feel embarrassed to say that.

NAME A TIME RECENTLY WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF / HOW DID THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?

I was explaining to a friend about my job, as I was speaking and telling her of the things I have done over the past couple of months I could feel a smile breaking out, and suddenly I felt such joy. I have always hated it when people would ask me, “So, what have you been up to?”. I would always reply “nothing”, and quickly move onto their lives or change the subject because I didn’t think my story was worth telling. But now I love talking about what I have been up to and although I haven’t outright said something good about myself, I feel proud and I am proud of what I have done and where I am going, and that’s a good start.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

The moment a woman begins to celebrate her body, her brain or her soul people immediately jump to the conclusion she is either on some kind of man hating mission to destroy all men OR she is a vain stuck up woman who thinks she is superior to everyone else.

So my point is that women shy away from celebrating themselves, because with everything we do we have to be categorised and put into boxes. We fear that the moment we celebrate ourselves we receive only negative labels.

Why can’t people just accept we celebrate ourselves because we are bad arse bitches.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

I’m still working on this. If I receive a compliment in person my body immediately panics and I start worrying about what vibe I am giving out.

If I smile too much they might think I agree with them.

If I don’t smile enough they might think I am being arrogant and rude.

If I don’t compliment them back they might think I think I am better than them.

If I compliment them back they might think my compliment isn’t genuine and that I am fake.

Yes, these are all the crazy thoughts that go through my head if someone compliments me. Pure panic takes over me.

I’m not saying I don’t appreciate a good compliment, who doesn’t right? It’s just my inability to accept it and not panic after that the person giving the compliment now thinks I am a massive wally. I am getting better though, I feel genuine happiness now when someone compliments me (after the minor freak out of course ha) where as before I would have just thought I was being mocked and that the compliment was not genuine. So It’s a start. I am getting there.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA WE ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

One big fat middle finger to society is what we need.

I so nearly ended my answer there!

For me, it starts with school. You are compared to others, people with better grades, people who are better at sports, and amongst your peers people who are better looking than you. School is one big fight to be the best. It was never about improving myself, Improving my score, Improving my grades, It was all about making the school look better.

“You should all be getting this grade” or “You should all be aiming for this”…

That attitude then continues through adult life, comparing yourself to your friends, people from school, from college, from uni, from work, etc. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is you.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

The way I see it, THE TRIBE movement is basically like those times you are drunk in the girls toilets at a pub or club and all the women in there, be it strangers or friends, are complimenting each other, giving each other advice, taking epic selfies together and just generally sharing the love to all their fellow females but THE TRIBE movement is on a MUCH, MUCH larger scale… and a much more hygienic one too. We need that everyday, we need women to support each other and to not tear each other down. We shouldn’t have to be drunk and in a public toilet to be able to tell another woman, “You are looking bloody fabulous tonight, stop putting yourself down and get out there and own it lady!”

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