Rachel Kellogg

HOW DID YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION AND THE WORK THAT SATISFIED YOU VERSUS WORK THAT JUST PAID THE BILLS?

How I pay the bills is only my “do”, versus my passion is what I’m called to “be”—it’s who I am. There’s a stark difference there because for years I settled in my professional career and put off who I am because I told myself I couldn’t afford to go after who I truly wanted to be. I was absolutely miserable “doing” because my purpose wasn’t being fulfilled, nor was my calling. In order for me to feel worthy in this life, I now know I must be willing to sacrifice the “do” in order to “be” the woman I am called to be. My “do”-ing won’t impact the world, but my “be”-ing can. With great being, comes great doing.

FOR YOU PERSONALLY, WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FEMINISM AND EMPOWERMENT?

Feminism, to me, is advocating for women and women alone. I’ve seen and heard women viciously tear down people of all genders over feminism. But if what we’re doing is trying to fight for equal rights of women, then tearing down all other humans (regardless of belief/gender) isn’t going to bring anyone together, but rather create an even larger divide. Empowerment, in my opinion, isn’t a fight—it’s a state of mind where people work together for the greater good of themselves, the world, and those around them. We need men to empower women, we need women to empower women—if one is working to tear down the other to gain footing, then we’ll always be at war. There will always be a divide until we empower each other to encourage, change, accept, love and forgive.

WHO WILL ETERNALLY BE A WOMAN YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT, AND WHY?

Brené Brown for researching vulnerability, shame, and the emotions that rob us of our full potential. I admire her most for realizing she needed to achieve and overcome her own fears surrounding her research. I love that Brené took a pause from it to learn how to walk her talk. She became vulnerable not only through her successful work and research, but also by finding the strength to live it out. We need more of that courage and bravery in this world—that’s why I try as hard as I can to be as vulnerable as I can be in recovery of my own mental and chronic illnesses, as well as my addictions.

IN LIGHT OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR HASHTAG #WHYITRIBE, WHY DO YOU THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO CELEBRATE WHO WE ALREADY ARE TODAY?

First off, it’s important to celebrate each and every one of us because everyone deserves love, and because we’re all life warriors. If I wasn’t going through the hardships that I’m experiencing in this moment, then I wouldn’t feel truly grateful in the long run. It’s in the present moment that we find strength to persevere and overcome the obstacles that are keeping us from peace, joy, learning to forgive, and becoming the best version of ourselves. I’m the best version of myself today when I can recognize the blessing in each current lesson (aka ‘blesson’). Who I am now, in this exact moment, is teaching me that I get to choose to be grateful and happy so I can show up for others in the same way, intentionally, tomorrow.

WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN SHY AWAY FROM CELEBRATING OR PRAISING THEMSELVES SO MUCH?

I can’t speak for other people, but I know I shy away from praising myself because I don’t want to be appear boastful—it comes as a personal judgment for me which I’m working through changing right now. For most of my life, all I sought after was external validation and praise. It actually hurt me in the long run because I never personally learned to celebrate who I am. I never told myself that I am worthy of confidence within myself, or believed that I could achieve it. I always relied on others’ perceptions to define me, and when I didn’t get the praise I thought I wanted or needed, I became extremely discontent and depressed. I am now learning to love myself in a way where my praise toward myself, and praise from God, is truly all that matters. Through that process I’m learning that I’m worthy of all the good things life has to offer and that my heart is whole within itself.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THE TENDENCY TO DISCREDIT COMPLIMENTS YOU ARE GIVEN?

This is funny—I’ve always been the girl who literally LOL’d when someone offered a compliment. I never knew how to handle it—I was always skeptical, as if the person was lying to me. Now I look back and realize how absurd that is, but I also realize a ton of people out there do the same thing. I guess laughing was my way of trying to cover up my own insecurities—I didn’t find myself worthy. It wasn’t until I started doing some deep, personal healing through coaching and the 12 steps that I was able to overcome the fear surrounding people, my worthiness, compliments and learn to easily accept all of those fears.

HOW DOES SOCIETY REINFORCE THE IDEA WE, AS WOMEN, ARE NOT ENOUGH AND HOW CAN WE TAKE THAT POWER BACK?

Society often sees women as too emotional and incapable of making big decisions because of it. I’m going to call bullshit on that way of thinking right now. It’s the people who won’t consider feelings, situations or emotions that wreak havoc on the lives of their constituents, employees, citizens, families, partners, etc. Women are natural nurturers for a reason—look at the world right now and notice how much it’s lacking nurturing. I sit here and wonder why. Families are being torn apart at borders, rumors of wars and terrorism—we live in a world of complete fear. There is no nurturing in any of those situations. There truly aren’t enough honest women in power. We can only take that power back by exercising our voices, acting on our words and empowering other women to shine their light on the evil of this world. The more we can walk in others’ shoes and find love and beauty in every human, in every situation—it’s there we can take back our power and find the willingness to navigate and nurture this broken world.

WHY IS THE TRIBE MOVEMENT IMPORTANT?

THE TRIBE is important because we must empower and encourage ourselves to exercise our voices and find our strengths within. It’s so hard to live life on our own—we weren’t made to do that. There’s a world full of people where we’re called to be in community with. THE TRIBE is one movement that pulls us together, as women, to live life together. It’s important to have a place where we can share our strengths, struggles, experiences, hopes and dreams—that’s where I find my best self. That’s where I can be of service to others, and where I see THE TRIBE can be of service to all women by bringing thousands of us together.

Occupation: Certified spiritual and recovery coach - my business is named “worthy+whole”

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